20111222 follow me 226 Marriage Economy :’I Couldn’t Afford TO Get Divorced’

  More unhappy marriages and more unhappy couples trapped in marriages — is cause for serious worry.

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reitty 发表于 2011-12-22 08:50
不好意思各位，第一次发帖，影响大家阅读了，请见谅。

我就说嘛  有些眼生哦

reitty 发表于 2011-12-22 08:50
不好意思各位，第一次发帖，影响大家阅读了，请见谅。

不过东西挺好的

It seems economical that two or more people live together, which can cut living cost. That's joking.
Actually there are few couples who live together only for love. That's the very distress.

it's good essay

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没钱结婚，更没钱离婚

I always keep thinking that "what's marriage? Why we human beings would get married compared with animals?"

According to the article, it's quite an interesting phenomenon, and let's go deeply to point them as different situations.

When unharmonious factors that may course latent divorce occurs, I guess couples that in different economic position vary to deal with the situation.

To couples who can't be economic independence

"They couldn't affordto get divorced. It wasn't an option because they didn't have the money,"

To couples who are economic independence, or at least they won't worry about basic routine expenditure,

I guess their marriage relationship would not be impacted by economy, but an obvious truth is that divorce may pull their quality of life down, which both of them have to consider as reasonable persons.

To couples that occupymass of fortune,

I cite wording from a book,<24堂财富课>,陈志武,Page 37:

"…为了方方面面的利益格局，你不能以夫妻缺乏感情而离婚。离婚会打破太多的利益格局。 "

"实际上，“家”也是一种利益结盟体，而且是“公司”出现之前人类社会最主要的利益结盟形式，这里的“利益”包括经济利益和感情需要，只是跟“公司”的自愿选择结盟相比，“家”结盟是天生的、非自愿选择的结果，只有“婚姻”这条延伸“家”的途径是可以选择的。“家”既是生产组织，又是实现人际资源共享、风险交换的组织，“家”利益最大化即是其终极目的。所以，许多关于“公司”的逻辑和理论，也可以用来理解“家”相对于社会的边界为什么是这样，而不是那样。为什么不同社会有不同的家庭模式？又是什么因素主导家庭边界的变迁？不同家庭模式自然会带来不同的社会文化、社Mr会结构以及其他结果…"

He insist that they also couldn't  "play the  divorce as a game", they couldn't afford a divorce, too!

We are humans which could be defined  as a kind of  animal that both have animality and sociality.

Marriage relationship maybe tend to be more social than zooid, it is an area that comprise by meeting both social needs and animal needs, thus the former takes significant material part.

Finally I try to answer the questions above in the beginning:

what's marriage?

It is a bilateral contract,that one can own rights that share resource and benefit (such as money, relationship,and love and so on) from the other, as a consideration, one must carry out obligations that take risks (such as bankrupt, prisoned,disease and death) from the other;in the basis of that , they carry on the family line to have babied as the animal does.

Why we human beings would get married compared with animals?

Because both of them feels their combination comes to a Nash Equilibrium, whatever it's real or feels like real, their swop of fortune,authority, reliance, privity and love or maybe a weighted average of them, goes to a balance. They need a pledge, and normally they marry.

Nowdays I understand love is just one piece of reason to get married, but not the only reason, and sadly i guess it is the reality.

It's interesting. Thanks to LZ~~

Women will be happier if she devotes more time in family than in work. Even if her husband is not satisfied with her, she has children who cannot leave her. But if she devotes much time in work, in most occasions, she will get less than male colleagues, and female workmates don't like her, her husband also thinks she has spent too much time on work. If she can earn much and bring the money back home, it's OK, otherwise, she is almost not welcomed by everyone.