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HappyAndy_Lo 发表于 2018-7-2 23:10:53
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https://bbs.pinggu.org/thread-5128209-1-1.html

隐喻

    阿尔弗雷德·诺伊斯(Alfred Noyes)的诗歌:“道路是一条黑暗编织的缎带,飘落在紫色的荒野上。”
    心理学家理查德·科普(Richard Kopp)在《隐喻疗法》(Metaphor Therapy)中写到的,隐喻不仅为我们提供丰富多彩的语言,也帮助我们创造出一个思考问题的构架体系。

    113.1/195
    如果你接受“时间就是河流”的隐喻,你的行为就会大相径庭。时间持续地“流淌”着,你不会担心它用尽,因为总有更多的时间源源不断地涌来。你让时间任意“漂流”,非常放松地享受漂流的过程。

    具体的形象对于大脑的形成和思想的发展有着极其重要的作用。
    (时间是一列失控的火车,无法停住。时间是一个火炉,燃烧了我们的能量。时间是一个旋转木马,再转一圈时我们就会有新的机会。)这些崭新的视角帮我们建立起新的概念框架,让我们用新的角度思考,从而与他人进行更生动的沟通。

    使用隐喻。倾听对话(尤其是涉及情感的对话)中的隐喻并作出回应,可以加强与他人的情感沟通。

学会倾听最重要

        理解隐喻和各种非语言形式的沟通方式可以提高我们与他人的沟通能力,但如果没有良好的倾听技巧,只会事倍功半。

        掌握引导他人谈话的技巧,有助于提出恰当的沟通邀请,建立完美的人际关系。良好的倾听技巧能帮助你在各种场合中事半功倍,还能帮你建立起稳固的情感联系。

        对他人感兴趣,而不是让别人对你感兴趣。
        卡耐基曾写过一句颇有哲理的话:“一个真心关心别人的人在两个月结交的朋友,比一个总想得到别人关心的人在两年内结交的朋友还要多。”
        尽管卡耐基写的建议主要针对友谊和推销,但这一原则适用于所有的人际交往。
        每个人都想得到重视和欣赏,没有什么比真心关注他人更重要。

            以问题开始。
            不要问那些用一个词就可以简单回答的问题。好问题通常给对方详细阐述观点的机会。比如“你为什么希望……”或“你怎么想的……”就是不错的问题。

            最好不要太过刨根问底,也不要迫使对方说出他们不愿讲述的内容。另外,提出问题时让对方居于主导地位也很重要。
            询问他人的目标及对未来的看法
            寻找共同点。
            人们常常被与他们相似的人吸引。沟通过程中,让对方知道你们有一些相似的观点或背景非常重要。同时,不要让自己成为谈话的焦点,应当多谈论双方的共同点,一定要记得一起分享你们的观点。

            过早地分享个人信息有可能不利于关系的正常发展。对方可能对你分享的过多信息应接不暇,或是对你过于亲密的表现感到压力重重。

            用心去倾听。
            成功地鼓励某人开口谈话后,下一步就是倾听,用心去听。这听起来很简单,可是很多人在谈话中总是习惯地想自己下一步该说什么,而没有留心倾听对方的话。

            偶尔点头或用声音进行回应。这表示你对对方的话非常关注。
            不时地改述对方的话。这样做能让对方知道你一直对他的谈话内容很感兴趣。
            保持一定的目光接触。请允许说话者与你进行眼神沟通。
            放弃自己的控制。当你努力试图引导谈话的结果时,你就不是一名合格的倾听者。倾听要求你放弃对谈话的控制欲。
            解决情感问题的最佳答案往往只有自己通过努力寻找才能发现。

            停下忙碌的步伐,倾听亲人的心声,对他们说“我理解你现在的感觉”,这些就是最好的支持。
            关上电视。电视常常会阻碍人们倾听对方。

人际关系要点

◆即使人们试图掩藏自己的情感,也并不意味着他们的情感就不会表露出来。
◆比起语言,大多数的人更愿意相信非言语信号。
◆人们在试图隐藏自己的情感时,可能会表现出复杂的表情。
◆避免眼神接触会限制双方的沟通。
◆如果面部表露人的情感,那么身体则揭示了情感的强烈程度。
◆对他人感兴趣,而不是让别人对你感兴趣。

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myJGw 发表于 2018-7-2 23:47:52
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myJGw 发表于 2018-7-3 05:05:45
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Continue reading: “Communication — The Path to Payoff”
https://www.pmi.org/learning/tra ... rojectified-podcast

2. 今天阅读到的有价值的内容段落摘录:
Oren Klaff
Let's just suspend our belief for a moment and assume the reason the results and the payoff of the meeting, we can actually leave to the end. What do we do in the beginning, set up. Lower the dome, build this environment, establish the social ranking in the environment, and give us some specific ways to do that in a minute but there's got to be a set up and return to the big idea. I'm going to do it in a way that's new and novel but have a good set up, then we get on the path to payoff. The path to payoff is problem and then solution. What we can often do in projects is give the solution first, and then explain what problem the solution solves. There's completely backwards to how the human mind works.
we talk mostly about the problem. Because if somebody believed that what you do is hard, then they will value the solution you have. Until there is a belief in the audience and the buyer and the stakeholders mind, that the things you do are very difficult to accomplish and not many people, no-one can understands this problem at this depth. They're not going to value your solution.  Solution will always be discounted if the problem that you're solving seems easy to solve.
So path to payoff is describing the problems that are involved credibly. That's where you're doing your selling. Set up. Problem - why things are difficult, then the solution and then ultimately the message you want to deliver. The payoff.
it's on a narrative art which that is enticing to the evolutionary biology of the human mind. So anytime you feel like you have to tell somebody what you're gonna tell them. It's because your story isn't strong enough to support what it is you want to talk about.
the case for change is really about problem and opportunity, it's not about solution
You really need to have the ability to deeply describe a problem and in that description, your status raises, because you're giving people new interesting information about something that they care about, as your status raises there's more trust layered in, believability, credibility happens and eventually, you reach a point and you can sense in the buyer, the audience are raising off their temperature where they have so much belief in you, that you know this area, you understand these problems and that you work on solutions in this area, they literally want to hear the solution from you.
That's important to show people you're willing to walk away if it's not right for them.
A narrative art in our context is a big idea about something new, interesting, novel and changing. Then a problem that is difficult to solve, giving their audience or buyer a sense of autotomy, we're not the only ones we just think we've chosen the right way to do it. Our solution, and then moving in to reporting the results or whatever the pay off is, the value proposition and so now you start to see, if we go back to when the problem was just information dump, right now we can take a look at all the information we have, and say how do we start hanging it on these stages of the presentation.
The human mind does not like too have the solution and the benefits delivered simultaneously. So what we have to do is unpack the solution further so the solution is what it is in black and white just the facts no editorial, how it works black and white no editorial like the Wall Street Journal is delivering it, then you can go crazy on selling it and I think this is what Project Managers are looking for, the right and the ability to sell you know without feeling promotional or salesey. Unpacking this is what it is, facts - no editorial, no overlay, no emotional content.
They don't like you to be excited and passionate about something when you are delivering facts because they know you're trying to provide emotional content at a time and sway and influence and persuasion at a time when they are just learning, remember what it is, what does it mean, what should we do. It's OK, people expect you, you bring something to the table, they expect you and want you too be behind it, passion about it, promoting it and this path or this pattern or this narrative art gives us permission to sell and be passionate, the reason you feel squishy or slimy or salesey is when you delivering facts information and suggesting a course of action at the same time. It's not how we work.
The span of human attention is 20 minutes. You should only present as long as you could be compelling.
Big ideas. New information. Novel and ways of describing things, insight on what is gonna happen next
the most highly valued people in any company in any project are people who know what's going to happen, is likely to happen in the future, that's why this big idea setup is so important. The people who know what is going to happen one quarter, two quarters, three quarters out are the most valuable people in any company in any project. So if you can provide insight, credibly on what is likely to happen next, so if you show some ability to describe what's gonna happen around the corner you will be highly regarded and then the benefit of that is your status in the pecking order it goes up, once you do that then you have a little bit more power, a little bit more control and more influence. You're the valuable person, what is valuable is you. Your insight. Your knowledge, your integrity. Your value system. Your hard work. Your relationships.  Pro-tips or project professionals present only as long as you can be compelling emphasise your ability to tell what will happen in the future

3. 今天阅读的自我思考点评感想

(1) Human reasoning theory: what do we know? What does it mean? What should we do? That is the process.
(2) Solution will always be discounted if the problem that you're solving seems easy to solve. So anytime you feel like you have to tell somebody what you're gonna tell them. It's because your story isn't strong enough to support what it is you want to talk about.
(3) Set up. Problem - why things are difficult, then the solution and then ultimately the message you want to deliver. The payoff.
(4)  To show people you're willing to walk away if it's not right for them.
(5) The human mind does not like have the solution and the benefits delivered simultaneously. So you need
unpack the solution further so the solution is what it is in black and white just the facts no editorial. Unpacking this is what it is, facts - no editorial, no overlay, no emotional content.
(6) The span of human attention is 20 minutes. You should only present as long as you could be compelling.

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