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2018-10-19
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Continue to read book "The 7 habits of highly effective people : powerful lessons in personal change " by Stephen R. Covey
Covey has attained a high status amongst other self help authors, and for good reason. Within these pages is a fair amount of useful information, but one must approach this book with an open mind. Negative reviews often assert that Covey's writing is fluffy and simplistic, that his methods were not scientific or empirical, and that his views are at odds with modern psychology. To address the first issue, this book was not written for intellectuals; it was written for the average man or women. So critics have taken this style of writing as personally offensive, but fail to realize this book could be easily picked up by a 16 year old and easily worked through. Covey's aim was probably as such, to deconstruct more complicated aspects to their must basic elements. Covey's "fluffy" writing style, while boring to some, helps one remember what's written. People remember reception, so "buzz words" and adjectives are repeated. People remember stories and anecdotes, so there is a wealth of them through the pages.
Address the second issue, the criticisms that Covey's assertions are at odds with modern Psychology and fundamentally unscientific may held more merit 10 years ago, but this is ironically no longer the case. Covey is obviously conservative and patriotic. Seeds of his bias are evident throughout that book. However, many of the comments he makes, such as claiming humans to be the only animal capable of self awareness, although recently have been discredited, were still widely held beliefs in a substantial part of the scientific community when Covey first laid down these words. Never the less, one who focuses on this discrepancy with modern science is just as much a fool as he claims Covey to be--they miss the entire purpose of the book because the point is humans ARE self aware; it doesn't matter if other animals are or not also because Covey is focusing on the implications and possibilities of human self awareness. Likewise, Covey's notion that Behaviorist psychology is wrong (e.g. one could not behave their-self out of an emotion) was actually also Phenomenological point of view held by many psychologist science the 70's and relvent to Covey's lifetime. Interestingly, after the ever expanding field of cognitive psychology first demonstrated that behavior could induce emotions, they also discovered that cognition (i.e. thoughts) could not only mitigate emotions, but drastically change them--especially when one realized that these emotions were linked to his or her behavior. Surprisingly this falls exactly in line with what Covey is suggesting: your thought process changes your behavior, which changes your thought process, which changes your behavior. Cognitive psychology is also beginning to outline this cyclical process of human emotion, and it is easier to break and reconstruct this chain with thoughts because we have conscious control over these.
In short--approach the Seven Habits humbly and from an objective view point and you will take away much that will improve your life. Covey is just a human like all of us, but we do benefit from learning from others and Covey himself was very successful (Did you go to Harvard? If so you have a free pass). Just take it all with a grain of salt.
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