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昨天阅读了新书 the laws of human nature 第三章See Through People’s Masks—The Law of Role-playing，部分摘要如下：

People tend to wear the mask that shows them off in the best possible light—humble, confident, diligent. They say the right things, smile, and seem interested in our ideas. They learn to conceal their insecurities and envy. If we take this appearance for reality, we never really know their true feelings, and on occasion we are blindsided by their sudden resistance, hostility, and manipulative actions. Fortunately, the mask has cracks in it. People continually leak out their true feelings and unconscious desire in the nonverbal cues they cannot completely control—facial expressions, vocal inflections, tension in the body, and nervous gestures. You must master this language by transforming yourself into a superior reader of men and women. Armed with this knowledge, you can take the proper defensive measures. On the other hand, since appearances are what people judge you by, you must learn how to present the best front and play your role to maximum effect.
Words are often used as a cover-up, a way to conceal what is really going on.

感想： 年轻时觉得大家戴着面具生活，像变色龙一样是虚伪， 但生活中，如果不分角色场合一味本我，其实也是不恰当的，毕竟我们的角色不同，外在表现不能一样。 所以人生如戏，还是需要尽力演出，关注自己内心，也有多多观察、体谅、了解他人，这样才能和谐，各得其所。

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