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昨天阅读5小时,累计阅读495小时。因为crazy rich asian 电影的影响,去年底至今读完了该连续三部小说。昨夜熬夜读完了rich people problem。
昨天做33 war strategies 第15章摘要如下:
15. Control The Dynamic: Forcing Strategies
People are constantly struggling to control you—getting you to act in their interests, keeping the dynamic on their terms. The only way to get the upper hand is to make your play for control more intelligent and insidious. Instead of trying to dominate the other side’s every move, work to define the nature of the relationship itself. Shift the conflict to terrain of your choice, altering the pace and stakes to suit you. Maneuver to control your opponents’ minds, pushing their emotional buttons, and compelling them to make mistakes. If necessary, let them feel they are in control in order to get them to lower their guard. If you control the overall direction and framing of the battle, anything they do will play into your hands.
Control is an issue in all relationships. It is human nature to abhor feelings of helplessness and to strive for power. Your task as a strategist is twofold: First, recognize the struggle for control in all respects of life, and never be taken in by those who claim they are not interested in control. Second, you must master the art of moving the other side like pieces on a chessboard, with purpose and direction.
The following are the four basic principles of the control art: (1) keep them on their heels. (2) Shift the battlefield. (3) Compel mistakes. (4) Assume passive control.
To control the dynamic, you must be able to control yourself and your emotions. Getting angry and lashing out will only limit your options.
Be sympathetic to their plight, but make it seem that whatever they do, they are actually cooperating with your own desires.
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